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Study Guide Available

wendy — Mon, 16 Aug 2010 15:48:04 +0000

Welcome to the students and teachers of North Arlington High School, NJ, who are reading The Guru Next Door. To help you, there is a study guide at http://www.readinggroupguides.com/guides_g/guru_next_door1.asp. Enjoy and don’t hesitate to contact me.

Give the gift of Option Method for the holidays

wendy — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 15:19:56 +0000

Author signed copies of The Guru Next Door, A Teacher’s Legacy available at $3.99 plus shipping at Amazon. The teachings of the creator of the Option Method told in a heartwarming story of a young girl’s journey to happiness.

To order, go to this link http://www.amazon.com/gp/offer-listing/1934450006/ref=sr_1_olp_2?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1260025532&sr=1-2&condition=new

Announcing Option Method Workshop

wendy — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 19:52:22 +0000

SAILING IN THE WINDS OF CHANGE
Your happiest course through turbulent times.
Opening introductory workshop, Saturday, January 23, 9am-noon; Followed by Tuesdays, February 2, 16, 23, March 2, 9, 16, 6:30-8pm.
Are you in the midst of a life-shifting change? Are you facing the unexpected, such as divorce, unemployment, health issues? Or are you planning a major lifestyle change? Whether invited or not, no matter how big or small, we know that change is inevitable. But does it have to be a source of pain, anxiety, consternation, fear? Or can it be a time of peace and self-affirmation, even joy? What if that is entirely up to you?

Join Wendy Dolber, Option Method teacher and author of The Guru Next Door, A Teacher’s Legacy, and Marble member Paul Stanwick on a joyous exploration of your change reaction. No matter how adrift you may feel, learn to navigate back to the source of peaceful self-knowledge and happiness. Experience a powerful life skill, the Option Method, that you can use to help yourself and others stay afloat in the roughest waters. Can you be happy in the midst of change? Come find out how!

Cost Options
Saturday only, $15;
Saturday and Tuesdays, $60
Includes workshop materials, Saturday breakfast.
Reserve online at www.marblechurch.org, or contact Baleta Mckenzie at the church, Ph. 212 686 2770 X 466
email: bmckenzie@marblechurch.org

The Option Method – Letting go of beliefs

wendy — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 16:11:06 +0000

A question that often comes up with Option Method dialoguers is – What do I do when I get down to the core belief behind my unhappiness? How do I let it go? There is nothing to do to let a belief go – except to ask yourself, Do I still believe this? If your answer is yes, then you’re not done. Ask yourself why? Ask yourself what are you afraid would happen if you did not believe it. See how much further you can go.

If you are at the point where your answer is No, I no longer believe that, know this: There is nothing more to do. You have done your job. You have examined your unhappiness and gotten down to the beliefs behind it. There is no need to replace the belief with another belief. There is no need to engineer a new state of mind. You have done your job in removing obstacles to happiness; it is not your job to create happiness. Happiness is a grace that comes to you when you are open. Allow yourself to be at peace and enjoy the miracle.

As Bruce said, “To enter into a new life, which is in our sense spiritual and miraculous, it is possible to do so by choice. One can choose a way of life and state of mind which makes it possible to receive the gifts and graces which are fruits of being in union with happiness.”

Be happy and do what you want. You are already changed.

Welcome to my ’60s

wendy — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 15:28:22 +0000

I am 60 today. I was thinking this morning as I woke up feeling wonderful about how the decade of my 50s was pretty great in so many ways. So many wonderful things happened – so much personal growth and happiness. So many things to be grateful for. And it was a time of very serious health problems. I survived a spinal tumor that almost brought me down for good and found out what it means to be losing the ability to walk and dealing with pain off the chart every single day. And what it feels like to be told you have breast cancer. And dealing with the aftermath of surgery and radiation. But I also found out what it feels like to ask for help from the universe and get it. I was saved by wonderful doctors and surgeons and friends and my amazing sisters. And today I am strong. I can walk and I do walk for miles. The crushing pain, neuropathy and spasticity is gone. I do my yoga and I just started kayaking. And I am cancer-free. As they say, it was an amazing learning experience.

My wish for the next decade is this. To age gracefully and healthfully. To keep moving in the direction I want to go – stronger, happier, freer. To keep learning and creating and growing and loving. And being delighted and surprised.

And I wish the same for all of you.