Dialogues in Self Discovery

Wayne Dyer has just released a wonderful new movie called Ambition to Meaning (www.ambitiontomeaning.com) , which premiered in NYC January 5th.  You can get the dvd on the website. If you want to experience something truly groundbreaking and inspiring, please treat yourself to a copy and tell everyone you know.  The movie does a phenomenal job in demonstrating how magic happens when we stop relying on external forces to shape our existence and go with our natural connection to source (read happiness, the divine, God, or whatever word has meaning for you).  

Ambition to Meaning really hit the nail on the head for me.  Starting work on my new book, I really understood once more, how crucial it is to connect with your source.  For me, it is always the truth about happiness – that happiness is our natural state and that nothing has the power to make us unhappy.

I went to the premiere to meet Wayne and give him a copy of The Guru Next Door.  You never know how these things will go, but I knew that it was a perfect opportunity.  I have had a strong feeling for some time that I wanted to connect with him.   His work in the last few years has resonated strongly with me.  He is really an example of authenticity in action.  I love watching him.  

 I do everything I can think of to get the word out about The Guru Next Door.  One of the things I did early on was to request testimonials from people I admire, especially people who know about Option Method.  That’s how I got Joe Vitale and Michael Neill to endorse the book.  But, as you can imagine, I got more rejections or non replys than endorsements.  Not a problem.  I just keep on, keeping on, as my big sister Leslie, loves to say.  

So, with book in hand, already inscribed for Wayne, I showed up.  And there he was, surrounded by people. But even so, he was completely assessible.  He was there to connect - bless him.  So I walked up to him and said exactly what I wanted to say.  He listened as if he had all the time in the world, was so receptive and cordial, I just wanted to hug him.  I refrained, of course.  I hugged myself, instead, for giving myself the supreme pleasure of going after what I want. 

Dr Dyer has put forth a tremendous effort to share his vision and make it understandable to as many people as possible.  That’s the way we change the world. Check it out and pass the word along.  In the midst of so much bad news, let’s pass along some good news.  We have everything we need to be our perfect selves!

As I start work on my new book, a guide to the Option Method, I am already reminded of the power of Not Trying.  Nothing felt right until I let go and went with what felt right to me.  You know how they always say, Do Your Research, Know How You Will Market Your Book, Know Your Audience, etc., etc. ? All good advice.  So I did as much of that as I wanted and then set out to write with my head and heart stuffed full of other people’s approaches.  Nothing much happened.  The excitement, mystery and inspiration that sat on my shoulder as I wrote my first book, The Guru Next Door, vanished.  Writing Guru was truly a lesson in not trying.  I showed up and let it happen.  True, it was in my head all day long for the 4 years it took to write.  But when I showed up at the keyboard, it flowed from my brain, down my arms, to my hands on to the screen – often requiring very little editing.  I know every book can’t be like that, but ….  But nothing.  Why not? 

So I stopped trying and locked into what I know to be true.  If there is a secret to perfect doing, this is it.  And no wonder that the same applies to being happy.  Bruce Di Marsico, my teacher and creator of The Option Method, wrote this:  Being unhappy is trying to be happy.  There is nothing you have to do to get happier.  Want it and let it happen.”

This is the way I love to live my life.  I have faith in what that will create in the world.  So let’s not try together!

Join the conversation!  Share an area of your life where not trying created just what you wanted.

Namaste, Wendy Dolber

One.  As you start the new year, know that there is nothing magical about January 1.  Every moment of your life is an opportunity for a clean slate when it comes to your happiness.  You can be happy now, if you are willing to choose happiness as your way of life.

Two.  Know that happiness is not reserved for so-called beautiful people, lucky people, rich people, young people, or quite simply, “other people”.  Happiness is reserved for you.

Three.  If you doubt your ability to be happy, think about this:  The goal of everything you do is in order to be happy.  Your happiness is always within you, as natural and ever-present as the beating of your heart.

Four.  If you don’t like the way you feel, know that you have a choice. Nothing can make you feel any way you don’t like feeling. Nothing.

Five.  Devote yourself to the vision of the greatest happiness you have ever known. 

Sound good?  These are concepts embodied in the Option Method.  Learn more at www.OptionMethodNetwork.com. 

Wishing you happiness today and every day,

Wendy Dolber

There’s still time to get your copies of The Guru Next Door, A Teacher’s Legacy for the holidays!  As Joe Vitale says, Guru is “a fascinating heart-opening book!” (Thank you, Joe).  What better time of the year to pass along the word that happiness is not only possible, but is our choice – every moment of every day!.  For those of you who have read and loved Guru, I invite you to share your thoughts about what Guru taught you about your ability to be happy now!!!

Wishing you happiness today and every day,  Wendy Dolber, author, The Guru Next Door, A Teacher’s Legacy

Wendy recently appeared on Footnote, a weekly book talk show on Ebru TV. Watch Wendy’s interview.

You can now Search Inside the Book at Amazon! Tell your friends!

What does it mean to be truly happy? Is your happiness tied to getting what you want? Or avoiding not getting what you don’t want? Here is what Bruce Di Marsico, creator of the Option Method, had to say:

Happiness is not the result of having good things in themselves. What we have always meant by good merely granted us the right to be happy. Happiness is the right to be happy and is the result of not doubting that you have this right — no matter what. All people want to be happy. Happiness is the ultimate desire. Happiness is the prime mover. Happiness is the goal of all desires. The desire for happiness is the sole motivation of all people.

A delightful blend of self-help and fiction, August 8, 2008
By Midwest Book Review (Oregon, WI USA)

A delightful blend of self-help and fiction, The Guru Next Door: A Teacher’s Legacy follows Annie as she deals with her highly dysfunctional family. Her father is gone, her grandmother apparently hates her, her mother is a recluse, and everyone around her is simply unhappy. Her only hope is her next door neighbor, a shining beacon in the sea of darkness that is her life. Teaching readers mental well-being can be found even when everything seems terrible, The Guru Next Door is a great pick for anyone who needs their spirits lifted.