Some of us, even when we are firm ground, imagine our lives as a tightrope.  We are constantly thinking about the possibility of slipping and falling rather than experiencing the joy of moving forward.  Think about the question marks you have about moving forward and how you can turn them into exclamation points.

Have you ever experienced feeling almost happy, almost content, almost at peace?  When everything seems fine, but there’s a nagging feeling that something is lurking around the corner?   Often that feeling of something lurking is our belief that we have to be constantly vigilant that something “bad” might happen if we don’t watch out.  And it is not an accident that this belief might pop up just as we are feeling good.  For some of us, it is our way of putting the brakes on happiness – just in case.  We believe we need to worry to avoid “bad” things happening in the future.  Consider this.  There is a difference between being vigilant and worrying about “bad” things happening.  We can be joyously vigilant and look under every rock and around every corner to avoid problems.  But if we are defining “bad” things as things that will by definition make us unhappy, what are we saying about our our happiness and unhappiness?  We are saying that there are things we will have to be unhappy about – that there are things that will prevent us from being happy.  So observe yourself this week to see if you are joyously vigilant or worrying that “bad” things are coming your way and threatening your happiness.  You are the only one who can make this choice for you.  Namaste!  Wendy Dolber, Option Method Teacher, author, The Guru Next Door, A Teacher’s Legacy.

Ambition to Meaning really hit the nail on the head for me.  Starting work on my new book, I really understood once more, how crucial it is to connect with your source.  For me, it is always the truth about happiness – that happiness is our natural state and that nothing has the power to make us unhappy.

I went to the premiere to meet Wayne and give him a copy of The Guru Next Door.  You never know how these things will go, but I knew that it was a perfect opportunity.  I have had a strong feeling for some time that I wanted to connect with him.   His work in the last few years has resonated strongly with me.  He is really an example of authenticity in action.  I love watching him.  

 I do everything I can think of to get the word out about The Guru Next Door.  One of the things I did early on was to request testimonials from people I admire, especially people who know about Option Method.  That’s how I got Joe Vitale and Michael Neill to endorse the book.  But, as you can imagine, I got more rejections or non replys than endorsements.  Not a problem.  I just keep on, keeping on, as my big sister Leslie, loves to say.  

So, with book in hand, already inscribed for Wayne, I showed up.  And there he was, surrounded by people. But even so, he was completely assessible.  He was there to connect - bless him.  So I walked up to him and said exactly what I wanted to say.  He listened as if he had all the time in the world, was so receptive and cordial, I just wanted to hug him.  I refrained, of course.  I hugged myself, instead, for giving myself the supreme pleasure of going after what I want. 

Dr Dyer has put forth a tremendous effort to share his vision and make it understandable to as many people as possible.  That’s the way we change the world. Check it out and pass the word along.  In the midst of so much bad news, let’s pass along some good news.  We have everything we need to be our perfect selves!

So I stopped trying and locked into what I know to be true.  If there is a secret to perfect doing, this is it.  And no wonder that the same applies to being happy.  Bruce Di Marsico, my teacher and creator of The Option Method, wrote this:  Being unhappy is trying to be happy.  There is nothing you have to do to get happier.  Want it and let it happen.”

This is the way I love to live my life.  I have faith in what that will create in the world.  So let’s not try together!

Join the conversation!  Share an area of your life where not trying created just what you wanted.

Namaste, Wendy Dolber

Two.  Know that happiness is not reserved for so-called beautiful people, lucky people, rich people, young people, or quite simply, “other people”.  Happiness is reserved for you.

Three.  If you doubt your ability to be happy, think about this:  The goal of everything you do is in order to be happy.  Your happiness is always within you, as natural and ever-present as the beating of your heart.

Four.  If you don’t like the way you feel, know that you have a choice. Nothing can make you feel any way you don’t like feeling. Nothing.

Five.  Devote yourself to the vision of the greatest happiness you have ever known. 

Sound good?  These are concepts embodied in the Option Method.  Learn more at www.OptionMethodNetwork.com. 

Wishing you happiness today and every day,

Wendy Dolber