If you are at the point where your answer is No, I no longer believe that, know this:  There is nothing more to do.  You have done your job.  You have examined your unhappiness and gotten down to the beliefs behind it.  There is no need to replace the belief with another belief.  There is no need to engineer a new state of mind.   You have done your job in removing obstacles to happiness; it is not your job to create happiness.  Happiness is a grace that comes to you when you are open.   Allow yourself to be at peace and enjoy the miracle. 

As Bruce said, “To enter into a new life, which is in our sense spiritual and miraculous, it is possible to do so by choice.  One can choose a way of life and state of mind which makes it possible to receive the gifts and graces which are fruits of being in union with happiness.”

Be happy and do what you want.  You are already changed.

Have you ever experienced feeling almost happy, almost content, almost at peace?  When everything seems fine, but there’s a nagging feeling that something is lurking around the corner?   Often that feeling of something lurking is our belief that we have to be constantly vigilant that something “bad” might happen if we don’t watch out.  And it is not an accident that this belief might pop up just as we are feeling good.  For some of us, it is our way of putting the brakes on happiness – just in case.  We believe we need to worry to avoid “bad” things happening in the future.  Consider this.  There is a difference between being vigilant and worrying about “bad” things happening.  We can be joyously vigilant and look under every rock and around every corner to avoid problems.  But if we are defining “bad” things as things that will by definition make us unhappy, what are we saying about our our happiness and unhappiness?  We are saying that there are things we will have to be unhappy about – that there are things that will prevent us from being happy.  So observe yourself this week to see if you are joyously vigilant or worrying that “bad” things are coming your way and threatening your happiness.  You are the only one who can make this choice for you.  Namaste!  Wendy Dolber, Option Method Teacher, author, The Guru Next Door, A Teacher’s Legacy.

Ambition to Meaning really hit the nail on the head for me.  Starting work on my new book, I really understood once more, how crucial it is to connect with your source.  For me, it is always the truth about happiness – that happiness is our natural state and that nothing has the power to make us unhappy.

I went to the premiere to meet Wayne and give him a copy of The Guru Next Door.  You never know how these things will go, but I knew that it was a perfect opportunity.  I have had a strong feeling for some time that I wanted to connect with him.   His work in the last few years has resonated strongly with me.  He is really an example of authenticity in action.  I love watching him.  

 I do everything I can think of to get the word out about The Guru Next Door.  One of the things I did early on was to request testimonials from people I admire, especially people who know about Option Method.  That’s how I got Joe Vitale and Michael Neill to endorse the book.  But, as you can imagine, I got more rejections or non replys than endorsements.  Not a problem.  I just keep on, keeping on, as my big sister Leslie, loves to say.  

So, with book in hand, already inscribed for Wayne, I showed up.  And there he was, surrounded by people. But even so, he was completely assessible.  He was there to connect - bless him.  So I walked up to him and said exactly what I wanted to say.  He listened as if he had all the time in the world, was so receptive and cordial, I just wanted to hug him.  I refrained, of course.  I hugged myself, instead, for giving myself the supreme pleasure of going after what I want. 

Dr Dyer has put forth a tremendous effort to share his vision and make it understandable to as many people as possible.  That’s the way we change the world. Check it out and pass the word along.  In the midst of so much bad news, let’s pass along some good news.  We have everything we need to be our perfect selves!

So I stopped trying and locked into what I know to be true.  If there is a secret to perfect doing, this is it.  And no wonder that the same applies to being happy.  Bruce Di Marsico, my teacher and creator of The Option Method, wrote this:  Being unhappy is trying to be happy.  There is nothing you have to do to get happier.  Want it and let it happen.”

This is the way I love to live my life.  I have faith in what that will create in the world.  So let’s not try together!

Join the conversation!  Share an area of your life where not trying created just what you wanted.

Namaste, Wendy Dolber