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	<title>Dialogues in Self Discovery &#187; unhappiness</title>
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		<title>Do you put the brakes on happiness?</title>
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Have you ever experienced feeling almost happy, almost content, almost at peace?  When everything seems fine, but there&#8217;s a nagging feeling that something is lurking around the corner?   Often that feeling of something lurking is our belief that we have to be constantly vigilant that something &#8220;bad&#8221; might happen if we don&#8217;t watch out.  And [...]]]></description>
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<p>Have you ever experienced feeling almost happy, almost content, almost at peace?  When everything seems fine, but there&#8217;s a nagging feeling that something is lurking around the corner?   Often that feeling of something lurking is our belief that we have to be constantly vigilant that something &#8220;bad&#8221; might happen if we don&#8217;t watch out.  And it is not an accident that this belief might pop up just as we are feeling good.  For some of us, it is our way of putting the brakes on happiness &#8211; just in case.  We believe we need to worry to avoid &#8220;bad&#8221; things happening in the future.  Consider this.  There is a difference between being vigilant and worrying about &#8220;bad&#8221; things happening.  We can be joyously vigilant and look under every rock and around every corner to avoid problems.  But if we are defining &#8220;bad&#8221; things as things that will by definition make us unhappy, what are we saying about our our happiness and unhappiness?  We are saying that there are things we will have to be unhappy about &#8211; that there are things that will prevent us from being happy.  So observe yourself this week to see if you are joyously vigilant or worrying that &#8220;bad&#8221; things are coming your way and threatening your happiness.  You are the only one who can make this choice for you.  Namaste!  Wendy Dolber, Option Method Teacher, author, The Guru Next Door, A Teacher&#8217;s Legacy.</p>
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		<title>The path to happiness: the power of why.</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 15 Feb 2009 23:58:07 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[One of the most powerful questions when it comes to becoming a happier person is Why?  Why am I unhappy?   Just questioning unhappiness is the first step to being free of it.  But the way we question has everything to do with the answers we may get.  Why is so often an accusatory question.  Why am [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://thegurunextdoor.com/info.cgi?q=question%20marks&amp;id=L3Sc53a8hiukZsogg-P7AyjkWsyOzfjNY1sJ-CxCaIM&amp;start=61" target="_top"><img src="http://media5.picsearch.com/is?L3Sc53a8hiukZsogg-P7AyjkWsyOzfjNY1sJ-CxCaIM" border="0" alt="Click to view image details" hspace="8" width="128" height="84" /></a>One of the most powerful questions when it comes to becoming a happier person is <em>Why</em>?  <em>Why</em> am I unhappy?   Just questioning unhappiness is the first step to being free of it.  But the way we question has everything to do with the answers we may get.  <em>Why</em> is so often an accusatory question.  <em>Why</em> am I unhappy? can often mean: What is wrong with me?  To help yourself to be a happier person, harness the power of <em>Why</em> by infusing the question with love and acceptance.  Know that you are not wrong to be unhappy.  Ask why with the innocence of a child.  You will be amazed what you will discover!  Wendy Dolber, author, The Guru Next Door, A Teacher&#8217;s Legacy.</p>
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